STOP TRYING TO BE ‘HAPPY’. IT WILL DRIVE YOU INSANE!

The world is obsessed with trying to be happy 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. STOP IT! IT’S NOT REALISTIC AND IT WILL MAKE YOU (as in all of us) SEVERELY UNHAPPY!!!

Happiness is not a concrete or permanent location we can find and reside in forever. Happiness is just fleeting moments we catch here and there (hopefully quite frequently) and then they flit off again like the beautiful butterfly it is. People need to stop throwing the word ‘happiness’ around so cavalierly and start replacing it with content, peaceful, calm, tranquil, centred, grounded, grateful, appreciative etc. etc. etc.

By constantly talking about ‘happiness’ and wanting to be ‘happy’ and striving over hell or high water to get ‘happy’ all you are doing is setting up fanciful delusions about what life should be and you will end up missing it (life). Strip it back to basics. Live within your means. Cut up that credit card, stop trying to keep up with the Jones’ and be as sustainable and mindful as you can be. Start a vegie patch and buy some chooks or at the very least start shopping at the farmer’s market. Take time out to enjoy your hobbies and surround yourself with loving, supportive people. Laugh! Laugh as many times a day as you can without being bundled off to the looney bin. The phrase ‘laughter is the best medicine’ is so underrated and you know why? Because laughter is free and marketing companies don’t make disgusting amounts of money off marketing free stuff (unruly capitalism IS the devil). And most importantly, as the famous Ancient Greek aphorism tells us, KNOW THYSELF! Work out who you are, what your values are, what your opinions and beliefs are, what you stand for as a human being. It is amazing how much more grounded, centred and confident a person feels once they know themselves and like who they are as a person (you have to like yourself, it’s the most important thing since, you know, you are always stuck [stuck in a good way] with yourself).

No one is ever going to be ‘happy’ in the sense that the world, especially marketing companies, try to portray. We didn’t evolve to be ‘happy’ we evolved to survive, just like all other living organisms on Earth did. So take off your $500-$1000 watch and your designer label, wanky whatever, put on a pair of fishermen pants and a wife beater and go for a picnic and most importantly, RELAX! You’ll feel a hell of a lot better and you may even be lucky enough to have a moment of real, tangible happiness.

Gandhi blamed women for being raped, Coco Chanel was an antisemetic Nazi sympathiser and I seriously have to stop reading about iconic people I admire

The day I read what Gandhi said about rape of women I was incredibly crushed. No one had ever told me this man, who I had always admired and revered, said…

“I have always held that it is physically impossible to violate a woman against her will. The outrage takes place only when she gives way to fear or does not realize her moral strength. If she cannot meet the assailant’s physical might, her purity will give her the strength to die before he succeeds in violating her…It is my firm conviction that a fearless woman, who knows that her purity is her best shield can never be dishonoured. However beastly the man, he will bow in shame before the flame of her dazzling purity.”

WHAT?!?!?! I mean, seriously mate, WHAT THE F*CK?!?!?! I know he was from a different era and culture but I felt so bloody cheated when I read this. My father’s father was a Tamil from the Madras region of south India so I always had a warm and kindred feeling about old mate, victim blamer due to the fact he was a historic, iconic, freedom fighter and countryman to my Grandpappy. That was, of course, until I read he was a RAPE VICTIM BLAMER! Now, I don’t know how to feel. One part of me wants to write him off completely. Another part of me says he was ignorant and from a different era but the fact is his comments, as a revered leader, have really helped to reinforce the misogynistic, rape culture that India is currently battling. If a great man like the Mahatma blamed the victim of sexual assault then why can’t we too??? YUK!

And Coco!!! Sweet, little, I slept my way to the top (more power to you, girl!), slacks for women, costume jewellery, No. 5, Jew hating, Nazi sympathising Coco!!! Once again, read these details I had never heard of before and… was… crushed!!!

I know it seems stupid to care about these people who are long dead and buried but it’s just so confronting. You think you know everything important there is to know about an iconic person and then BAM! You find out they are the kind of person you would never invite around to share a Woolies cheese platter and a bottle of $15 white 😦 It’s very disheartening.